Mother’s love – By Tharindu Muthukumarana
The mother elephant and her lifeless infant
She walked the forest with grief in her gait, A cradle of sorrow trailing behind— Not a burden, but a memory with weight, a love that even death could not unbind. She carried not just a lifeless body, but a bond, through trails where silence thickened like mist. Each step an elegy, each glance a prayer, for a world kinder than this. So let us learn that mourning needs no words or name. In every soul that dares to love, loss burns the same eternal flame.
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Recently, news emerged from the North Central Province in Sri Lanka that quickly became a viral story. In a heart-wrenching display of maternal grief, a mother elephant in Kaudulla National Park was seen carrying the lifeless body of her calf across several kilometres—an act she continued for several days, embodying the depth of her sorrow. Even when the carcass got rotten and the skull got detached from the body, still the mother elephant dragged the body to every place she went.
This news recalls a story from Buddhist chronicles, which tells that in ancient Shravasti, Kisa Gotami, a poor young mother, was devastated by the sudden death of her only child. Overwhelmed by grief, Kisa Gotami refused to accept her child’s death and took his lifeless body in her arms, wandering from house to house in search of a cure. Her desperate search led her to the Buddha, who gently offered her a task: to collect mustard seed from a household untouched by death. Eagerly she began, only to discover that every home had experienced loss.
Through this profound journey, Kisa Gotami came to realise the universality of death and suffering. No one is spared from loss, and her personal grief was shared by countless others. Enlightened by this truth, she accepted her son’s death, buried him, and returned to the Buddha with clarity and peace. She eventually joined his monastic community, seeking deeper understanding of life’s impermanence.
The mother elephant dragging her lifeless infant in the Kaudulla National Park.
Elephants reacting to another deceased elephant is highly documented in scientific literature. Usually, it is known that when elephants come across a deceased member of their species, they demonstrate a rich array of nuanced behaviours that imply a potential awareness of death and emotional response akin to mourning. These include tactile inspections using their trunks, gentle prodding or nudging of the body, standing vigil or forming a protective presence around it, and in some instances, making efforts to resuscitate the fallen individual.
Additionally, elephants may return to the location where death occurred, sometimes engaging in ritual-like acts such as covering the remains with soil, branches, or foliage. Interestingly, these responses are reserved exclusively for other elephants, underscoring a profound intraspecies sensitivity and a unique social attachment not extended to the carcasses of other animals.
Though not commonly seen, there are some previous records of mother elephants carrying their dead calves, and this is documented in both African and Asian elephants. From land mammals’ elephants have the longest gestation period, which lasts up to 22 months. The enduring maternal bond in elephants is critical to offspring survival and behavioural maturation. Maternal investment encompasses sustained caregiving, vigilant protection, and active facilitation of learning, with calves remaining dependent for several years.
In 2022 a research paper was published in the Royal Society Open Science journal focusing on the behaviour of elephants thanatological behaviour. In it, scientists used YouTube videos (39 in total) to study 24 distinct incidents between 2010 and 2021, capturing elephants’ reactions to dead companions. Some of the key behaviours were (i) Calf Carrying: in five cases, mothers were seen holding on to their dead infants, suggesting prolonged attachment and distress.
(ii) Vigil and Guarding: Elephants often stood over or near the body, displaying alert or agitated behaviour. (iii) Touching and Smelling: They examined the corpses using their trunks, possibly seeking sensory confirmation. (iv) Attempted Revival: Some elephants tried to lift, nudge, or shake the body, as if attempting to wake their fallen companion. These behaviours reflect the deep mother-calf bond and social sensitivity of elephants. Elephants may not conceptualise death like humans do, but their actions point to a form of death awareness and emotional processing.
There are accounts of mother elephants tenderly carrying their deceased calves to specific places, seemingly to lay them to rest. A research article published last year mentioned five different incidents of mother elephants burying calves in tea estates of northern Bengal. In all five documented instances, the calves were buried in a consistent manner: their legs remained upright while the head, trunk, and dorsal regions were fully covered. The rationale behind this specific burial orientation remains unclear. Interestingly, certain Palaeolithic human burials also exhibited deliberate positioning of the deceased. Whether elephants exhibit a comparable phenomenon is yet to be understood, warranting further investigation.
Similar behaviour observed in other animals
Carrying the dead offspring for days is not only done by elephants; there are records of other animals, such as primates and whales, doing the same thing. In 2018 there was news that got international attention when a killer whale named Tahlequah carried her deceased newborn calf, Tali, for 17 days across 1,000 miles of ocean. In 2025, she repeated this heartbreaking behaviour after the death of another calf, whom she carried for over 11 days.
A research paper published on primates in the peer-reviewed journal Proceeding of the Royal Society: Biological Sciences describes the reasons why primates may carry their dead offspring: (I) Younger mothers were more likely to carry their dead infants, possibly due to less experience recognising death. (II) Infants who died from illness or stillbirth were more likely to be carried than those who died from trauma. (III) The younger the infant, the longer the mother tended to carry the body.
The mother elephant’s prolonged contact with her deceased calf reflects complex thanatological behaviour observed in highly social species. Scientific observations point to a neurological basis for such grief-like responses, urging us to broaden our understanding of empathy and emotional awareness in animals.
by Tharindu Muthukumarana
tharinduele@gmail.com
(Author of the award-winning book “The Life of Last Proboscideans: Elephants”)
