by Milroy Martyn – Endeavour Hills<\/p>\n
Etiquette is the oil which makes for smooth relationships. You can be ever so distant in your relationships but yet be civil, The smile, the nod, the wink, can tell more than all the words in the world.<\/span><\/p>\n Why bear grudges and anger it only hurts the person carrying the heavy load of resentment, often the other person does not even know that you bear a grudge or is angry.<\/span><\/p>\n A wise person remains silent when they are angry or mad at something. Harsh words thrown at a time of anger can- not be retrieved, it has hit the mark with blemish, and caused untold, irretrievable damage, the old adage of \u201csilence is golden\u201d is eternally true.<\/span><\/p>\n Etiquette is elegant behaviour, is invigorating, and uplifting.<\/span><\/p>\n I go to drop my grandson, one day of the week, and the mothers who bring their children to the day care centre, are amongst the most polite, kind, caring, people I have met; they hold the door open for you to enter, and wait until you are in, to let the door go, they say hello, and good morning, with a genuine smile, which lingers and not one of those mechanical smiles which leaves the face instantly. This, lifts me into a higher echelon of human behaviour, and makes me want to imitate and continue to be nice.<\/span><\/p>\n Etiquette is virtually being nice to people around you whether it is a chance acquaintance, or a lasting relationship, it never hurts to be polite and civil in conversation.<\/span> Etiquette is being considerate, it is being thoughtful, to those in the home, all else is empty and shallow and has no value. The bible says \u201cwhen you go to a feast do not sit at the head of the table, it is reserved for the chief guest, take the lowest place until you are ushered to the ordered seat, where the host says, guest come up higher\u201d.<\/span><\/p>\n Good manners are often most evident and best displayed at table, where table manners are learned.<\/span><\/p>\n Children ought to be taught:<\/span><\/strong><\/span><\/p>\n To wipe their mouths with a paper towel and not on their shirt sleaves,<\/span> To pick up any food fallen off their plate on the table cloth.<\/span> We left the first choice to the youngest member of the family and it went up the ladder and if there was a very old person at the table they were given pride of first choice in serving.<\/span><\/p>\n Unpleasantness at table.<\/strong><\/span> Smelling good through the day<\/strong><\/span> Make certain you wash your hands after use of the toilet with soap and water and generous use of deodorant soap or fresheners will make you smell sweet, do carry a sachet of pleasant smelling fragrance.<\/span><\/p>\n Men might carry a\u201d man bag\u201d with such accoutrements, not being overly sissy. It is most disgusting when you are in company and someone constantly breaks wind, and smears the atmosphere with pollution. Sometimes I wish I could paint this effluent wind.<\/span><\/p>\n \u201cLet your personality be your profit and not your punishment.\u201d Amith Kalantrie<\/span> Saying nice things never hurt anyone.<\/strong><\/span> Let your heroes be known.<\/strong><\/span> \u201cIf you want friends you must be friendly. Always complaining and posting negative comments is not going to bring you friends. No one likes to get puked on. <\/span> Being boorish is not being a gentle-man<\/strong><\/span> Integrity is lost if you are not careful in doing what is right in all circumstances. All it takes is one mistake. One miss take.<\/span><\/p>\n Don\u2019t spread bad feelings<\/strong><\/span> To be trusted is a compliment and one which you earn, through being responsible in little things, My mother often reminded us \u201cif you can be trusted with little things, you will trusted with bigger things. and they expect that you will honour their trust.\u201d<\/span><\/p>\n Let yourself be invited<\/strong><\/span> \u201cThe table was a large one, but the three were all crowded together at one corner of it: ‘No room! No room!’ they cried out when they saw Alice coming. ‘There’s plenty of room!’ said Alice indignantly, and she sat down in a large arm-chair at one end of the table. ‘Have some wine,’ the March Hare said in an encouraging tone. Alice looked all round the table, but there was nothing on it but tea. ‘I don’t see any wine,’ she remarked. There isn’t any,’ said the March Hare. ‘Then it wasn’t very civil of you to offer it,’ said Alice angrily. ‘It wasn’t very civil, of you to sit down without being invited,’ said the March Hare.\u201d<\/span><\/p>\n \u2015 Lewis Carroll, Alice’s Adventures in Wonderland & Through the Looking-Glass<\/span><\/p>\n Heroes are courageous<\/strong><\/span> Boost your ego, being humble<\/strong><\/span> Share your secrets only with those you trust, or not at all.<\/strong><\/span> Be at par with the rest of those at the party.<\/span><\/p>\n \u201cIn society, the object of conversation is of course entertainment, and improvement, and it must, therefore, be adapted to the circle in which it is carried on, and must be neither too high brow nor too deep for the party at large, so that every one may contribute his share, and to the best of his ability\u201d Arthur Martine, Martine’s Handbook of Etiquette. You \u201ctalk shop\u201d only with like, minded people, for example doctors will talk medically only in the company of the medical profession.<\/span> Rousseau tells us, that, \u201cpersons who know little, talk a great deal, while those who know a great deal, say very little.\u201d \u2015 Arthur Martine, Martine’s Handbook of Etiquette<\/span><\/p>\n I remember when we as a family, were in our deepest grief at the loss of our daughter, the radio was playing \u201cit\u2019s raining in my heart\u201d and this friend said to me there\u2019s your theme song \u201cIt is rudeness of the highest order to hit a family when they are down.\u201d \u2015 John Patrick Hickey, <\/span> Etiquette on the dance floor.<\/span><\/strong><\/span><\/p>\n It is so evident, those who have been to a reputed dance school for training in dancing. They flow in a clock wise direction the rest go all over, and crash into every one on the floor. Particularly when the music is a waltz, it\u2019s so orderly to see the dancers twirling around the floor in a clock wise circular movement round the floor, they don\u2019t bump, into each other, and there is a smooth flow of dancers.<\/span><\/p>\n I have been hit in the face, by those who do the jive, The jive does need space, it\u2019s best to move to\u00a0<\/span>some place on the floor where there is ample space to perform their gyrations. When the music switches into twist, or Baila it\u2019s always politeness, to be in areas of the dance floor where you are away from those who dance traditionally, and correctly, moving clock wise. Avoid banging into others on the dance floor, guide your partner away from an impending bang, gently, Hold your lady gently with kindness, and dignity. Politeness at a dance, is to dance with your partner of the night, and if you choose to dance with someone else make sure that your partner is not lingering alone at the table,<\/span> Never complain about your partner\u2019s dancing, you are there to enjoy the night and not complain.<\/span><\/p>\n Organisers of dances should take it upon themselves, to ensure that the floor space for dancing is generously large, making large profits at the expense of providing inadequate space for dancing is a rip off when every- one is cramped on the floor.<\/span><\/p>\n Dance bands should be instructed to provide music with a medly of tunes of the same beat, like a medley of waltzes, a medley of Baila,twists and so on. A medley is a group of like beat songs, or music. <\/span> One very important concept in order to ensure integrity, particularly when dances are organised to support charitable ventures, or past student associations, that the organisers provide an expense, and income statement, at the dance to ensure that the money collected is spent in supporting the old school or charity. Otherwise the dance means of collecting, money becomes a farce and an opportunity to cheat and leaves doubt and looses support above all; integrity..<\/span><\/p>\n Milroy Martyn<\/span> Etiquette the road to success by Milroy Martyn – Endeavour Hills Etiquette is the oil which makes for smooth relationships. You can be ever so distant in your relationships but yet be civil, The smile, the nod, the wink, can tell more than all the words in the world. 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\nEtiquette is elegant, and makes sense.<\/span><\/p>\n
\nTo excuse themselves before leaving the table, not to spill food on the floor, or spit out bits of food stuck in their teeth and not to use a tooth pick at table, and flick the debris all over.<\/span>
\nWhen there are dishes of food, not to fill their plate with half the food. Think of other\u2019s needs.<\/span>
\nTo be considerate about the needs of others.<\/span><\/p>\n
\nWe were a bunch of seven plus mum, and dad, made nine, and we were taught to be considerate about the needs of the other. I often chose to serve myself last, you can not go wrong. <\/span><\/p>\n
\nIn some cultures belching is a sign that the meal served is very tasty. In western society or any normal society belching is the rudest noise you can make if you want to break wind, excuse yourself and visit the toilet, or some place far away from your guests.<\/span><\/p>\n
\nWake up early before you set out for the day and relieve yourself of the night\u2019s accumulation in your stomach. My mother recommended \u201cdrink a glass of cold water and that will flush your bowels quickly\u201d it sure does, and your stomach is free of debris, and you do not break wind all through the day.<\/span><\/p>\n
\nIt is important for your corporate embellishment, and body impact, that you smell pleasant and clean without an overbearing of perfumes, just a light dab would do.<\/span><\/p>\n
\nIf you want to say anything, say something nice, it never hurt anyone. To be nice. <\/span>
\nI remember a story told about a passenger who was getting off a bus and just before she left another passenger said loudly\u201d you left behind something\u201d \u201c a bad feeling\u201d came the abrupt answer\u201d she had been complaining about everything all through the bus ride. Buddha said\u201d when you point one finger at someone, four point back at you\u201d.<\/span><\/p>\n
\nGive praise and honour to those to whom it is rightly due.<\/span>
\nSpend more time posting stories about heroes, than you do about the wrongs in the world. When we know about heroes and we see those who perform heroic acts, we too want to be heroes. There is a hero in all of us. Heroes are important.<\/span><\/p>\n
\nBe the example. \u201cYou brought me home a brand new kite you taught me how to fly\u201d daddy my daddy teach me how to pray\u201d Daddy his daddy did not know how to pray\u201d song by Jim Reeves.<\/span><\/p>\n
\nAs a man, you can be boorish if you think you are highly favoured, and women are a dime a dozen, and you can take advantage of a female, whilst being polite, maintaining that safe distance is pleasing in company and does not create undue displeasure, or else your company can become distasteful, and you will be shunned.<\/span><\/p>\n
\n\u201cKeep the personal, personal and do not be guilty of spreading bad feelings.\u201d John Patrick Hickey <\/span>
\n \u201cNo matter who it is or what you think of them, never rejoice in the pain of others. It lowers you to a level you should not be at.\u201d John Patrick Hickey,<\/span><\/p>\n
\nIn a conversation do not boorishly barge in. there are discreet means of entering one<\/span>
\nAlways ensure you are invited into a conversation. There are ways and means of entering an established group conversing.<\/span><\/p>\n
\n\u201cHeroes show us courage, honour, integrity and strength. Now more than ever, we need heroes.\u201d <\/span>
\n John Patrick Hickey, \u201cBe the change\u201d is the title of the book I am currently reading.<\/span>
\nBe the blessing, be the person who spreads joy, not gloom<\/span>
\nEncourage, rejoice and be happy at the achievements of others put your hands together in praise and appreciation, your attitude changes, and you feel better. Be hearty when you applaud.<\/span><\/p>\n
\n\u201cBow your head down and SEE, Your Ego will vanish. Shed your EYES a little, Your heart will MELT. Restrain your Teeth and SEE, Your health will improve. Stop your Tongue and SEE, <\/span>
\nConflicts will be passed away. Shorten your desires and SEE, There will be a world of Happiness. There was a practice in our home when you wake, to say nothing for the first half hour after you have wished good morning. \u2015 Sandy Raman.<\/span>
\nGossip is the harshest form of character vilification. Often the person whose character is maligned, is not present to defend themselves.<\/span><\/p>\n
\nBe cautious with whom you share your secrets, firstly, if you lose their friendship you have rested your innermost secrets, in the bosom of an enemy. Always be careful not to share any personal secrets. Be circumspect about the friends you choose to be your friend. Remember the words of the song Tennessee Waltz. \u201cmy friend stole my sweetheart from me\u201d <\/span>
\n\u201cTo be truly grateful for the kindness of others and to have those you love in your life is a great and powerful emotion. John Hickey.<\/span><\/p>\n
\nLord Chesterfield advises his son \u201cto speak often, but not to speak much at a time; so that if he does not please, he will not at least displease, to any great extent.\u201d<\/span><\/p>\n
\nYou are what you speak, and you are what you tweet. Take care. Sooner or later, The President will fall victim to his tweets.<\/span><\/p>\n
\nIn my younger days, I was invited by a girl to a dance, and all through the night she danced with her boss I was a \u201ccats paw\u201d for her to get permission of her parents to go to a dance.<\/span><\/p>\n
\nOrganisers of dances should instruct the dance band to prepare a repertoire of music they intend providing to ensure that there is order. Often dance bands break the music, and do not know what their next song or music is, and the music is not a medley of tunes, when the music and dancing are in tandem it is a great pleasure to dance to a good band, or disc jockey. People on the dance floor should not be kept waiting for the next repertoire of music it should flow unbroken, until the end of the medley of songs or music. Your supporters have spent money to enjoy a good dance, and good food, it\u2019s your duty as an organiser to ensure your guests are treated with good music, and tasty food.<\/span>
\nBand singers ought not to go off at tangent singing off key. Stay with the original tune the basic tune.<\/span><\/p>\n
\nEndeavour Hills..<\/span><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"